Sometimes couples complain that their sex life has stalled. Each partner may be disappointed in the frequency, or in their experience of the sexual connection. But each might describe the trouble differently. Women tend to be less interested in sex when the emotional connection isn't strong. They describe how he is asking for sex frequently, but they just don’t feel connected enough to him to participate in sex. They reject their partner’s bids for sex, which is met by angry protests. In response the woman feels like he is mad at her but wants her to have sex with him anyway. Is he just interested in her body or does he care about her emotions? He on the other hand, feels like she is withholding sex and he will never be good enough for her. He withdraws and becomes less affectionate and more irritable, which causes her to feel less close and less likely to have sex with him. She feels hurt and starts complaining about other things she feels he does not seem to care about. His feelings of inadequacy get more intense. Eventually this cycle intensifies sometimes until the male partner gives up or the female partner burns out. It is important to get therapy before this happens!