When you first start therapy, especially when you are in therapy with your spouse, it helps to be able to express your feelings. Sometimes the words just don't come. Here is a list of feeling words sorted into "When Needs Are Not Being Met" and "When Needs Are Being Met". In therapy it is important to express your feelings, and not to judge them, so that you can better explain and understand your experience.
Feeling Words -
Hostile Animosity, Antagonistic, Appalled, Aversion, Cold, Contempt, Disgusted, Dislike, Distain, Hate, Horrified, Repulsed, Scorn, Surly, Vengeful, Vindictive
Angry, Enraged, Furious, Incensed, Indignant, Irate, Livid, Mad, Outraged, Resentful, Ticked off
Annoyed, Aggravated, Bitter, Cranky, Cross, Dismayed, Disgruntled, Displeased, Exasperated, Frustrated, Grouchy, Impatient, Irked, Irritated, Miffed, Peeved, Resentful, Sullen, Uptight
Upset, Agitated, Alarmed, Discombobulated, Disconcerted, Disturbed, Disquieted, Perturbed, Rattled, Restless, Troubled, Turbulent, Turmoil, Uncomfortable, Uneasy, Unnerved, Unsettled
Tense, Antsy, Anxious, Bitter, Distressed, Distraught, Edgy, Fidgety, Frazzled, Irritable, Jittery, Nervous, Overwhelmed, Pressured, Restless, Stressed out, Uneasy
Afraid, Apprehensive, Concerned, Dread, Fearful, Foreboding, Frightened, Hesitant, Mistrustful, Panicked, Petrified, Scared, Suspicious, Terrified, Timid, Trepidation, Unnerved, Wary, Worried, Reserved, Sensitive, Shaky, Unsteady
Vulnerable, Cautious, Fragile, Guarded, Helpless, Insecure, Helpless, Leery, Reluctant
Ambivalent, Baffled, Bewildered, Dazed, Flustered, Hesitant, Lost, Mystified, Perplexed, Puzzled, Skeptical, Torn
Embarrassed, Ashamed, Chagrined, Contrite, Guilty, Disgraced, Humiliated, Mortified, Remorse, Regretful, Self-conscious
Envious, Jealous, Nostalgic, Pining, Wistful, Yearning
Tired, Beat, Burned out, Depleted, Exhausted, Fatigued, Lethargic, Listless, Sleepy, Weary, Worn out
Disconnected, Alienated, Aloof, Apathetic, Bored, Cold, Detached, Disengaged, Disinterested, Distant, Distracted, Indifferent, Lethargic, Listless, Lonely, Numb, Removed, Uninterested, Withdrawn
Sad, Blue, Depressed, Dejected, Despair, Despondent, Disappointed, Discouraged, Disheartened, Downcast, Downhearted, Forlorn, Gloomy, Grief, Heavy hearted, Hopeless, Melancholy, Sorrow, Unhappy
Shocked, Appalled, Disbelief, Dismay, Horrified, Mystified, Startled, Surprised
Pain, Agony, Anguished, Bereaved, Devastated, Heartbroken, Hurt, Miserable, Wretched
Exhilarated, Ecstatic, Elated, Enthralled, Exuberant, Giddy, Silly, Slap-happy
Excited, Alive, Amazed, Animated, Eager, Energetic, Enthusiastic, Invigorated, Lively, Passionate
Inspired Amazed, Astonished, Awed, Dazzled, Radiant, Rapturous, Surprised, Thrilled, Uplifted, Wonder
Joyful, Amused, Buoyant, Delighted, Elated, Ecstatic, Glad, Gleeful, Happy, Jubilant, Merry, Mirthful, Overjoyed, Pleased, Radiant, Tickled
Relaxed, At ease, Carefree, Comfortable, Open
Curious, Adventurous, Alert, Interested, Intrigued, Inquisitive, Fascinated, Spellbound, Stimulated
Confident, Empowered, Proud, Safe, Secure, Self-assured, Confused
Engaged, Absorbed, Alert, Ardent, Curious, Engrossed, Enchanted, Entranced, Involved
Hopeful, Expectant, Encouraged, Optimistic, Longing
Grateful, Appreciative, Moved, Thankful, Touched
Refreshed, Enlivened, Rejuvenated, Renewed, Rested, Restored, Revived, Energetic
Affectionate, Closeness, Compassionate, Friendly, Loving, Openhearted, Sympathetic, Tender, Trusting, Warm
Peaceful, Blissful, Calm, Centered, Clear headed, Mellow, Quiet, Serene, Tranquil
Relieved, Complacent, Composed, Cool, Trusting
Content, Glad, Cheerful, Fulfilled, Satisfied